13 steps toward finding yourself—which isn’t your average game of hide-and-seek

“To that point, there is no cut-and-dry definition for what it means to find yourself, and that’s precisely why being able to do it (and identify that you’ve done it) can be so hard. ‘I see it as cultivating a deep understanding of yourself—what’s important to you, what motivates you, why you respond and react as you do, and your values,’ says psychologist Erika Martinez, PsyD. In addition to figuring out where you stand on things, finding yourself also means feeling at peace with the person you’ve become, she says.”