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Childhood Trauma: How We Learn to Lie, Hide, and Be Inauthentic
By being treated in these damaging ways, the child learns that being yourself is dangerous, that in order to survive and be at least marginally accepted by your caregivers, you have to hide who you really are: your thoughts, observations, feelings, and preferences.
Other times the child decides to lie to get their needs met, needs that otherwise would be completely ignored. For example, if the caregivers are emotionally distant, the child might lie or pretend that somethings going on just to receive some attention.
And, of course, if the child is routinely attacked or rejected for being authentic, they learn to hide and pretend. In many cases, to the degree where they gradually lose connection to their authentic self and have no idea anymore who they really are.
This is tragic. However, its important to realize that, as adults, we don’t have to be afraid of abandonment anymore. We don’t need our caregivers to survive. We can endure and deal with all these feelings of betrayal, hurt, distrust, shame, loneliness, anger, and many others.
As adults we can slowly untangle all of these problems and slowly rediscover who we really are. We also can start working on trusting others who actually are trustworthy. We can become authentic again.
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Dead Or Alive – You Spin Me Round (Like a Record) (Official Video)
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Museo Hendrik Christian Handersen by soulmatesneverdie
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Just Let Me Finish My Pie with Theo Rossi
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“The problem is, people are being hated when they’re real and loved when they’re fake.”
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Sons of Anarchy cast interviewed by Russell Brand 2012
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Now, We Crush Trump: 100 Days to a Better World
Here’s the truth about who our fellow Americans really are (and here’s the list nobody has bothered to show you because, well, we need to keep perpetuating our own belief that we are stuck living in a white, Christian Nationalist, conservative, red-neck, deep-fried-Oreo-loving country — when, in fact, the vast bulk of the United States is not like that anymore):
69% of Americans support legal abortion.
72% of Americans don’t own a gun.
90% of the country wants more gun control laws.
72% of us believe the Climate Crisis is real.
71% of all Americans approve of labor unions.
79% of us insist the rich must pay more in taxes.
76% of us want a much higher minimum wage.
70% of all voters believe marijuana should be legal.
73% of the country want student loan debt relief.
74% of Americans want more affordable homes.
65% support term limits on all Supreme Court justices.
84% of Americans want free Pre-k and 3-k.
69% of Americans support same-sex marriage.
65% of Americans want to end the electoral college.
89% of Americans oppose gerrymandering.
70% of us are demanding a permanent ceasefire in Gaza NOW!
72% of all Americans want money removed from politics!
70% of Millennials say they would likely vote for a Socialist candidate.
THAT is who we are.
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We try to bear witness to this force, but the human eye cannot see in geologic time. Our lives are just a blink compared to the life of a volcano.
Fire of Love 2022
dir. Sara Dosa
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Jeff Bezos about Founder of Sony