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“To be frank, all of these reasons can really be summed up in one word: insecurity. The person who is insecure will constantly see other people’s actions (or inactions) as a threat to their sense of self. When someone doesn’t do or say what we want or expect them to, this can be very uncomfortable and unnerving for those of us who are insecure. Insecurity causes us to rely almost exclusively on external things and conditions to help us feel safer in the world—and since the external isn’t within our control, we are often left reeling, reactive, and defensive.”

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“Defensive individuals often have control and power issues, and perceive anyone confronting them or holding them accountable as a threat. They are uncomfortable with feelings in general and managing their own. Defensive individuals don’t like to “work through” emotional issues in the collaborative way adults are expected to. They can be highly impulsive and quick in their emotional reactions, without pausing to think things through in a balanced way. Finally, they tend to avoid too much emotional closeness with others.”

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How not to take things personally? | Frederik Imbo | TEDxMechelen

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How to stop being so easily offended.

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What causes a person to be easily offended?