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The Moon Cannot Be Stolen
Ryokan, a Zen master, lived the simplest kind of life in a little hut at the foot of a mountain. One evening a thief visited the hut only to discover there was nothing in it to steal.
Ryokan returned and caught him. “You may have come a long way to visit me,” he told the prowler, “and you shoud not return emptyhanded. Please take my clothes as a gift.”
The thief was bewildered. He took the clothes and slunk away.
Ryokan sat naked, watching the moon. “Poor fellow, ” he mused, “I wish I could give him this beautiful moon.”
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Thinking is difficult, that’s why most people judge.
—Carl Gustav Jung
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“Insecure people put others down to raise themselves up.”
— Habeeb Akande
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Childhood Trauma: How We Learn to Lie, Hide, and Be Inauthentic
By being treated in these damaging ways, the child learns that being yourself is dangerous, that in order to survive and be at least marginally accepted by your caregivers, you have to hide who you really are: your thoughts, observations, feelings, and preferences.
Other times the child decides to lie to get their needs met, needs that otherwise would be completely ignored. For example, if the caregivers are emotionally distant, the child might lie or pretend that somethings going on just to receive some attention.
And, of course, if the child is routinely attacked or rejected for being authentic, they learn to hide and pretend. In many cases, to the degree where they gradually lose connection to their authentic self and have no idea anymore who they really are.
This is tragic. However, its important to realize that, as adults, we don’t have to be afraid of abandonment anymore. We don’t need our caregivers to survive. We can endure and deal with all these feelings of betrayal, hurt, distrust, shame, loneliness, anger, and many others.
As adults we can slowly untangle all of these problems and slowly rediscover who we really are. We also can start working on trusting others who actually are trustworthy. We can become authentic again.
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“I am convinced that men hate each other because they fear each other. They fear each other because they don’t know each other, and they don’t know each other because they don’t communicate with each other, and they don’t communicate with each other because they are separated from each other.”
— Martin Luther King, Jr.
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Cosmic Perspective on Humanity
“The Earth is a very small stage in a vast cosmic arena. Think of the endless cruelties visited by the inhabitants of one corner of this pixel on the scarcely distinguishable inhabitants of some other corner, how frequent their misunderstandings, how eager they are to kill one another, how fervent their hatreds. Think of the rivers of blood spilled by all those generals and emperors so that, in glory and triumph, they could become the momentary masters of a fraction of a dot.” — Carl Sagan
This quote by Carl Sagan, from his reflections on the “Pale Blue Dot” image of Earth taken by Voyager 1, is one of the most poignant and sobering commentaries on human nature and our place in the universe. It’s a powerful distillation of humility and perspective.
Sagan’s words emphasize just how small and fragile our planet—and everything that happens on it—really is when seen from a cosmic scale. His reflection on human conflict and the desire for domination exposes the tragic irony of our behavior: we commit immense violence and cruelty over borders, beliefs, and power, all while existing on what amounts to a speck of dust in an unimaginably vast cosmos.
The power of this quote lies in its juxtaposition. On one hand, it paints a picture of the grandeur and scale of the universe; on the other, it highlights the pettiness and destructiveness of much of human history. It’s both a critique and a call for introspection—an urging to reevaluate our values, actions, and the stories we tell ourselves about significance and glory.
Sagan’s message is not one of nihilism, though—it’s of responsibility. If this “dot” is all we have, then we ought to treat each other and the Earth with more care, compassion, and wisdom.
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The age of envy: how to be happy when everyone else’s life looks perfect
“But with the advent of social media, says Ethan Kross, professor of psychology at the University of Michigan who studies the impact of Facebook on our wellbeing, ‘envy is being taken to an extreme’. We are constantly bombarded by ‘Photoshopped lives’, he says, ‘and that exerts a toll on us the likes of which we have never experienced in the history of our species. And it is not particularly pleasant.’”