Depression
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The Psychology of Hypocrisy – Why We Do it & How to Stop
“At the root of hypocrisy is a strong desire to be loved and accepted. The fear of humility and judgment is so powerful, that we use doublethink and cognitive dissonance to avoid facing ourselves.”
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Childhood Trauma Influence
Childhood experiences, especially traumatic ones, can shape how people see the world, how they relate to others, and how they view themselves. It doesn’t necessarily define them forever, but it often becomes the foundation they either build on or try to rebuild from.
Let’s break it down a bit more—how childhood trauma shapes a person’s identity, behaviors, and emotional life:
1. Emotional Blueprint
- Childhood trauma can teach a child that the world is unsafe, unpredictable, or that they must suppress emotions to survive.
- As adults, this often shows up as anxiety, depression, difficulty trusting others, or emotional numbness.
2. Sense of Self
- Kids internalize what happens around them. If they were neglected, abused, or constantly criticized, they may grow up with a damaged self-image, always feeling “not good enough” or unsure of their worth.
- This can lead to perfectionism, people-pleasing, self-sabotage, or a fear of failure.
3. Attachment Styles
- The way caregivers interact with children creates an internal “template” for future relationships.
- Secure attachment = trust, openness, balance.
- Avoidant or anxious attachment (often trauma-related) = fear of intimacy, clinginess, or emotional withdrawal.
4. Survival Mechanisms
- Children develop coping mechanisms—like dissociation, hyper-independence, or overachievement—to deal with trauma. These often become long-term patterns that are hard to recognize or break as adults.
5. Core Beliefs and Identity
- Trauma can implant deep-rooted beliefs: “I am unlovable,” “I have to earn love,” “I can’t trust anyone,” or “I’m always in danger.”
- These beliefs shape personality traits, career choices, friendships, romantic relationships—even how someone talks to themselves internally.
6. Repetition Compulsion
- Some people unknowingly repeat traumatic dynamics in adult life—choosing partners or environments that mirror their childhood pain—as a subconscious way to “redo” or resolve it.
7. Creative Expression or Empathy
- On the other hand, trauma survivors often develop heightened sensitivity, creativity, empathy, and depth. Many artists, healers, and deep thinkers come from painful early life experiences.
If you’re thinking of this in terms of healing, transformation is very possible. Therapy, self-awareness, and safe relationships can slowly rewrite those scripts.
How does it shape the way we make decisions or express ourselves creatively as adults?
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The Male Ego: Definition, Causes, Tips, and More
“The male ego can in some cases be tied to how and where a man sees his place in the world and whether he’s living up to expectations — his and those of society.
Cultural stereotypes for men can be intricately tied to both the inflation and deflation of the male ego. Some men measure themselves by the answers to the following questions:
Am I strong enough? Am I wealthy enough? Do I meet the traditional definition of masculinity? Do I attract women? Do I control things or people? Do people recognize me for these things and am I respected and revered for them?”
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When people talk about how good they are, it is often a manifestation of their self-presentation and self-image. Several psychological and social factors contribute to this behavior:
1. Self-enhancement: People have a natural tendency to present themselves in a positive light. They want to be seen as competent, successful, and capable individuals. Highlighting their strengths and accomplishments allows them to boost their self-esteem and maintain a positive self-concept.
2. Social validation: Seeking validation and acceptance from others is a fundamental human need. By emphasizing their achievements and skills, individuals hope to gain recognition and admiration from their peers. Positive feedback from others can reinforce their belief in their abilities.
3. Impression management: People often engage in impression management, which involves carefully curating the information they reveal about themselves to create a favorable impression. They may downplay weaknesses and emphasize strengths to influence how others perceive them.
4. Social comparison: Comparing oneself to others is a common behavior. When individuals talk about their accomplishments, they might be seeking to establish themselves as successful or superior to others in their social circle.
5. Fear of judgment: Some people may fear negative evaluation or criticism. By emphasizing their positive traits, they aim to reduce the likelihood of being judged or facing rejection.
6. Cultural norms: In some cultures, it is more acceptable to express confidence and talk about one’s achievements openly. Such cultural norms can influence the way people communicate and present themselves.
7. Reinforcement of self-belief: Talking about their successes and abilities can serve as a way for individuals to reinforce their own belief in their capabilities. By vocalizing their achievements, they remind themselves of what they are capable of accomplishing.
It is important to note that while self-enhancement and self-promotion are common behaviors, not everyone engages in them to the same extent. Some individuals may be more modest or prefer to downplay their accomplishments to maintain humility. Additionally, constant bragging or exaggeration can lead to negative social consequences and perceptions of arrogance, so finding a balance between self-expression and humility is essential for healthy social interactions.
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“Insecure people put others down to raise themselves up.”
— Habeeb Akande
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What is an inferiority complex?
“People with an inferiority complex may experience chronic self-doubt, have low self-esteem, and feel the need to withdraw from social situations. Some people experience symptoms similar to those associated with a superiority complex, such as extreme competitiveness and an inability to admit to their mistakes.”
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“It is important to ask yourself whether your thoughts are consistent with facts or logic. There could be another explanation for a situation that is truer than your interpretation. Sometimes it is hard to break from long-held beliefs that have become part of your reality. Understand that it can take time and patience to overcome any negative preconceived notions toward your life that you’ve built up.”